Loving Myself Isn’t Selfish

I am by most standards a very frequent flyer. In the last several years I have logged over a half of million sky miles. I’ve become so accustomed to the long distant flights, that any flight ten hours or less seems like a quick trip. And every time I take a trip, I always love the safety demonstration in advance of the flight.

“In the unlikely event of a sudden loss of cabin pressure, oxygen masks will drop from the overhead bin. Place the mask over your own mouth and nose and continue breathing as normal. And if you are traveling with young children or persons who need your assistance, please be sure to secure your own oxygen mask before assisting other passengers.”

Securing your own oxygen before assisting others are words to live by.

Because the truth about love is you can’t give what you don’t have. And too often we confuse loving ourselves with being selfish. Yet the word of God is very clear that we are to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. This implies that we love and care for ourselves in a way that is pleasing to God and brings Him glory. We are also instructed that without love, we have nothing.

Perhaps you want to show love, grace, kindness, and compassion to others. Or you want to provide emotional, physical, or spiritual support to those in need. Whatever it is you would like to share with others, you won’t be successful if you don’t have anything to give. If you haven’t taken proper care of yourself. When you take the time to feed and nourish your own mind, body, and spirit, to care for yourself, then you are so much better positioned and prepared to care for others. To be on purpose with what God has called you to do.

There is no way you can pour into someone else’s life if you are constantly running on empty in your own.

In today’s busy and ever changing world, sometimes it’s all you can do to keep up with your myriad of roles and responsibilities. Some of us are wives, mothers, daughters, friends, volunteers, and leaders; all at the same time. Couple this with the fact that women are by nature prone to nurturing others, often at the expense of ourselves.

You are overworked, over scheduled, and stressed out. There aren’t enough hours in the day and if you could manufacture time you would. Research shows that as a whole, you get less sleep now than in any other point in recorded history. Is it any wonder that you aren’t bearing good fruit; you don’t have time.

What I want for you is to give yourself permission to love you the way God intended.

He loves you and want’s the best for you so He can get the best out of you. Let the month dedicated to all things love be a time of refreshing and renewing your spirit. To become mindful that God sent His son because that’s how much He loves you.

“For God the world so much that He gave His one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.” —The New Living Translation Bible

About Stacey Speller

A harbinger of true change and transformation, Stacey Speller is a global force, an in-​​demand speaker, a passionate lifestyle designer, columnist, and author. Stacey offers wisdom based on her most painful experiences and her most joyous moments, making her messages real and […]

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  1. Crystal G Abner says:

    I need this and have learned that the more I care for myself (unselfishly, if that makes sense) then the more I can care for others. The more I love myself, the more love I have for others. It's a different love than the world has a different type of care than that of the world. Seek Him first and He will lead us in loving ourselves.

  2. Elaine Robinson says:

    Good read.

  3. Niesha Mcdaniel says:

    So true.

  4. Thank you so much!

  5. Yes Crystal that is absolutely correct! Blessings to you 🙂

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