The Myth of the Perfect Mom

Are you the perfect parent?

How would you describe the perfect mom or dad? Is it the one who juggles a gazillion responsibilities — from running kid’s to their activities, to volunteering at school, to driving on all the field trips? Is it the parent who coaches and still remembers to bring the best snacks to soccer practice? Perhaps you picture the perfect parent as the one who seems calm, cool, and collected all the time — never getting out of sorts and maintaining a balanced and quiet life?

Whatever your picture of perfection looks like, I can reassure you with all certainty — there are no flawless moms or dads.  In our hearts, we may want to be perfect or at least make everyone else think we are perfect, but you and I both know that there is only One who is perfect and we are not Him. We all struggle. We all have both strengths and weaknesses, and we fall short of achieving what we wish we could do as moms and dads. Instead of constantly comparing ourselves with others, or worse yet, thinking that we somehow have it all together, let us humbly recognize our need for God as we seek His help in raising the next generation.

Our job is not to be a faultless parent, rather our job is to love, nurture, and teach our children and encourage them to grow to love God and follow the direction He has for their lives. Our kids learn best when they see a parent who loves God and depends on Him for direction and strength.  The apostle Peter, who by the way was obviously far from perfect, said this, “Humble yourselves…under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:6 – 7)

True humility means we recognize our need for God’s help. It means casting our cares continually on Him. Just as Paul gloried in his weaknesses, let’s take delight in our slightly imperfect abilities, because it is our imperfections that lead us to look to our perfect God and seek His strength and wisdom. Let’s guard against comparing with other parents in frustration or trying to maintain that spotless image of perfection. Instead let us demonstrate to our kids the beauty of taking everything to the Father and allowing our weaknesses to draw us closer to the Him.

In what areas do you struggle with perfectionism?  How do comparisons play a part in your thought life as a parent?

About Karol Ladd

Karol Ladd is known as “the Positive Lady.” Her heart’s desire is to inspire women with a message of lasting hope and Biblical truth. Formerly a teacher, Karol is the bestselling author of over 30 books, including The Power of a Positive Woman. […]

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  1. Jess Birchfield says:

    This is a great article! It really reminds me to seek GOD and not other parents approval. I do not need to be perfect in any way. I need to fix my eyes on Jesus and follow His leading in my life as a Mother, Wife, Sister, Daughter, Aunt, and Friend… May God continue to refine me…

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