There are moms who experience a weariness that goes far beyond the ordinary.
After turning down an interview with Oprah Winfrey, my friend Tracey Lane graciously allowed me the honor of talking to her about “the mess” of losing her only son in the Virginia Tech shootings of 2007 and sharing about it in my latest book, Hope for the Weary Mom: Where God Meets You in Your Mess (releasing October 2012). Her prayer is that her story might bring you comfort.
She’s living proof that there’s hope after significant and traumatic loss and that it’s possible to stand through the fiercest of storms. Today, I’m sharing an excerpt of Tracey’s story from the book in hopes that it will inspire you to build your house.
Build Your House
“Everyone who comes to me and hears my words and does them, I will show you what he is like: he is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on the rock. And when a flood arose, the stream broke against that house and could not shake it, because it had been well built.” (Luke 6:47–48)
A long time before Jarrett died, Tracey had given her life to Jesus. She was pursuing an intimate relationship with Him. She had already settled the answers to many of the questions that would assail her during that time of grief, and she was able to cling to the truth of God’s Word because she had already seen Him prove Himself to her over and over again.
My guess is that Tracey never thought her years spent pursuing a deep relationship with Christ would be needed to prepare her for losing her son in such a horrific way. But then, isn’t that just the point?
None of us knows what the day will bring, or when the storms will come. We look at our children and dream about who they’ll become, but do we entertain the notion that they might not grow up? Might not become who we thought God had made them to be? No, at least not for any length of time. It’s just too painful to think about our children dying before us. Rightfully so.
That’s why we MUST build our houses, now, on the rock of God’s Word, the truth of who His Son is and what He did. Don’t wait until tomorrow to get to know the God who loved you enough to send His only Son to die for your sins.
And don’t be content with just believing the basic tenants of the Christian faith.
Step one: if you haven’t placed your faith in Jesus as your Savior, do it now. If you need help knowing how to do that, email me privately at hopeforthewearymom[at]gmail.com.
Step two: find a group of local believers (Christians who meet together on a regular basis) and start going. They won’t be perfect, but you’ll commit to learning more about what it means to walk out the Christian faith with them by your side.
Step three: find time every day to pray and get to know God through His Word—ask God to make the Bible come alive to you, speak to your life situation, and provide the guidance you need to follow after Him.
Step four: say “yes” to God—commit to obeying His Word and ask Him to give you the strength you need to do it.
These steps aren’t foolproof, and they don’t guarantee protection from the “nonsensicals” of life. Bad things will still happen to you after you become a Christian. In fact, really bad things might happen to you. But you will be prepared because you’ve built a firm foundation on the one unchanging piece of Truth. God’s love.